“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” –George Elliot
January 2, 2014
Is YOURSELF still in the past?
January 1st is a hard day for many people. We feel guilty that we don’t want to make a New Year’s Resolution—and many times it’s because we are afraid of failing. Or feel no hope that our lives can actually change. Worse, we are back at square one—January 2013. Or January 2012, or January 2005…pick your year. Time seems to have moved to a new year, and our life may seem to have just stayed in the past. Some of us may feel overwhelmed with grief of time loss.
It’s a new day, it’s a new dawn. It’s January 2nd. We can do this. One dream. Just pick ONE dream.
I going to take you and I on a journey this year. A journey to a better life. A journey where in January 2015 we are eager to make the new New Year’s resolution. A journey where our past self and our new self emerge. My microblog will be dedicated to taking us, you and I, down this emergence.
Step one: To determine the ONE thing you want to bring into your life. Not the one thing you want to change—the turn-around. The one thing you want to BRING into your life.
This week we are going to take 10 minutes each day and contemplate our lives. That’s all. At the end of the week, we will identify the things that we yearn for. Next week, we will whittle it down to a ONE thing.
To start this new behavior, we need what we call “Action Triggers.” Action Triggers are like setting up your day for a new behavior to happen. (Read more below).
Take out a notebook and answer the following (not just read):
- Identify WHEN you will sit quietly and contemplate. –For me, I will do this every morning at 7 AM.
- Identify WHERE you will do this. –For me, I will do this in my bedroom, in front of the window facing the backyard.
- Set alarm on phone for 10 minutes.
- Breathe deeply and listen to your breath. Focus on the question, “When my work is ideal, I am…”
- Let yourself day dream about what good things you love doing.
- Pay attention to what makes your heart soar, makes you smile.
- No judgment on what you think you can or can’t do.
- Write down in your notebook what you day dreamed about, can you capture that in one or two words?
On Day 7, we will continue to Step Two in my next microblog.
ACTION TRIGGERS: by Chip & Dan Heath, New York Times bestselling authors of Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard
“Action triggers like these can be surprisingly effective in motivating action. The psychologists Sheina Orbell and Paschal Sheeran studied a group of patients in England with an average age of 68, who were recovering from hip or knee replacement surgery. Some of them were asked to set action triggers for their recovery exercises—something like, “I’ll do my range-of-motion extensions every morning after I finish my first cup of coffee.” The other group did not receive any coaching on action triggers. The results were dramatic: Those patients who used action triggers recovered more than twice as fast, standing up on their own in 3.5 weeks, versus 7.7 weeks for the others.
Psychologists have compared action triggers to “instant habits” because what they do, in essence, is make our behavior automatic when the trigger moment comes. Seize that power for yourself: Jump-start a new habit by setting an action trigger.”
“If you don’t start now, you will still be there, and not even here, in 2015″